“Have a seat!” - a simple invitation, but are you sure you’re doing it right?
Whether it’s a job interview, a formal dinner, or even a casual date, how you sit can say a lot about you. It’s more than just resting your legs; it’s about projecting confidence and poise. So, here’s your guide to sitting like a gentleman, with style and purpose.
Walk to the Chair Like You Belong
No need to fixate on the chair as if it’s about to disappear. Walk confidently, taking in your surroundings with a calm demeanor. Move as if you’re a welcome guest in an elegant room - not like you’re in a mad dash to claim the last seat at the table.
Unbutton Before You Sit
Before lowering yourself into the chair, unbutton your blazer or suit jacket. If you sit with it fastened, it’ll crease awkwardly, ruining your sharp appearance. Don’t let your outfit send the message: “I dress well but don’t know how to carry it.”
Prep Your Pants Before Sitting
Touch the edge of the chair lightly with the back of your thighs to gauge your position. It’s better to take this precaution than to end up sprawled awkwardly in a meeting or date 😂.
Then, gently lift your pants at the thighs as you sit. This prevents unnecessary stretching or wrinkling. Once seated, ensure your back is straight, either parallel to or just lightly touching the chair’s backrest.
Stay Relaxed, But Not Too Casual
Sit with your knees bent at a comfortable right angle, feet flat on the ground, and knees spaced moderately apart.
Rest your hands naturally - palms down on your thighs or lightly clasped in your lap. Avoid fidgeting, leg shaking, or tapping your fingers. While it doesn’t scream dishonesty, it can signal nerves or lack of composure.
Rebutton as You Stand
When it’s time to rise, place one hand on the chair’s armrest for support and use the other to button your jacket. A seamless motion like this exudes sophistication.
Chivalry: Pull Out a Chair for Her
A classic move that never goes out of style. While women are perfectly capable of pulling out their own chairs, offering assistance is a subtle gesture of respect and courtesy.
In group settings, help the woman on your right first. If there’s no one to assist on your left, extend the courtesy there as well. Small gestures like this make a big impression. 😉
Sitting may seem mundane, but it’s a powerful part of your body language. Nail this seemingly small detail, and you’ll leave a lasting impression wherever you go.
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